The G-Spot

There is so much talk about the g-spot, its elusiveness, its power and the fact that every woman has one.

Just what exactly is a g-spot and where exactly is it?

The g-spot isn’t as mystical as it has been made out to be by frustrated and misinformed men and women. Dr. Ernst Grafenberg wrote a groundbreaking article (“The Role of Urethra in Female Orgasm” written in the 1950s) containing his findings regarding, “ An erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation." This is where the g-spot got its name.

So what is it exactly?
The Gräfenberg spot or G-spot Named after Ernst Gräfenberg, is a small area in the genital area of women behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra. It is the same as, or part of, the urethral sponge, the site of Skene's glands.
It’s a small area of spongy tissue reached through the upper wall of a woman's vagina. This area is highly sensitive, from extremely pleasurable to down right irritating. Most women say that if they’re already aroused when their partner begins to stimulate their g-spot they feel an intense pleasure. The best way to make sure she is feeling what you want her to is to ask her. If you continue to stroke that overly sensitive area and she’s not enjoying it, you can guarantee you’re not getting the screw of a lifetime after you’re done ‘working your magic.’ Stimulation of the G-spot (through the front wall of the vagina) is said to promote a more vigorous and satisfying orgasm (climax), and is possibly the cause of female ejaculation; however, it may be that not every woman has such a spot. See Skene's glands and urethral sponge for more information. Such stimulation requires a somewhat opposite thrust to that required to obtain maximal clitoral stimulation via the penis, called "riding high". Many sexual advice books encourage couples unable to reach female orgasm to consider G-spot stimulation as a sexual technique. The term "The Male G-spot" is also used by analogy as a slang term for the prostate gland in men, which may be stimulated through anal play or by pressing on the skin directly beneath the scrotum.

How do I find my G-Spot?

Find a comfortable position for you, on your back, laying on your tummy or even sitting up at the edge of a sturdy chair. It is best to attempt this after making yourself sexually aroused. Now, place you hand against your labia, ensuring your palm is positioned to allow you to use either your middle finger or your ring finger. Insert your curved finger slowly and be sure to note the change in the smoothness of your inner walls when you reach your g-spot. It isn’t all that far inside and you should actually have only inserted your finger to about the second knuckle. Every woman is slightly different, so feel around.

How do I find her G-spot?

Make sure your partner is in the mood. Increased arousal engorges the spongy area with blood, making it more receptive to pleasure. If she tends to be a little on the dry side even after being aroused you might want to use some water passed lube to ensure easier maneuverability. With the heel of your hand pressed against her mound, gently insert your index or middle finger, making sure to bend it following her body’s inner curves, something like a fish hook or as if you’re making the come here motion with that finger. Most women’s g-spots range in size from a dime to a quarter, depending on her and her arousal level. Don’t be alarmed if hers is smaller or harder to find, every woman is different. Apply pressure to it and watch her reaction or listen to her. Since the g-spot generally likes pressure, don’t be afraid to press against it.

How do I stimulate the G-Spot?

There are a few ways in which one can stimulate the g-spot. The technique is pretty much the same if it is self-administered or by a partner. The most common ways are with a toy, with a penis or with fingers. Since fingers are sensitive and can move and bend easier than toys and penises, I suggest using them first in order to get the ‘feel’ of the location. Once you’ve mastered the location, you want to start with small, slow circles and back and forth motions, almost as if you’re scratching an itch, but keep those nails to yourself! With some women simply just having the pressure on that intensely sensitive spot is enough to send them over the edge and gripping the sheets. You’ll know when you’re doing the right thing.

Now if you want to use sextoys, go for it! If you feel you’re up to it, make sure she’s got a dildo or vibrator that sports a hooked or bent tip so that the angle will be easier to deal with. Now while using a toy it is much harder to use the small circle motions, so I suggested the back and forth motion with added pressure. The most important thing to remember is to watch her signs. If she’s writhing on the bed in ecstasy then you know you’ve got it right, but if she’s just looking at you with ‘what in the hell are you doing’ written all over her face, you need to rethink using a toy and going back to using your fingers.

If you’re thinking about trying to send her off to the rolling hills of orgasm land with your penis, be ready to try some weird angles. You need to make sure the fullest part of your head is rubbing against her engorged erotic zone with each thrust, otherwise while it may very well feel good to her, you’re not going to get that explosive reaction you were hoping for and she may not orgasm at all.

To really throw her over that edge, try stimulating her clitoris as you stroke her g-spot. This technique is often referred to as the C G Combo. Use your tongue, other hand, toy… whatever it is she finds absolutely wonderful for clitoral stimulation. This combination leads to extremely intense orgasms and the ending result could be one really exhausted woman or a squirting orgasm, but that’s an entirely different article.

Female masturbation often, but not always, involves the stimulation of only the clitoris to produce an orgasm. When a woman is familiar with her body sexually through masturbation, she is often better equipped to direct her partner to the clitoral or g-spot erogenous zones. If her sexual partner is familiar with female masturbation techniques, he or she will be much better able to satisfy her sexually with the most intense orgasm that a woman can feel: those produced by the proper and simultaneously stimulation of the bot the clitoris and the G-spot.

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